Recognizing that a person who was once loved and cherished will no longer be a part of the ex-lover’s life can bring feelings of rejection and inadequacy. Feelings of bewilderment and anger are common reactions to a break-up. Knowing what to do while reeling from a break-up will help a person move on with her life in a positive way.
It’s Okay to Cry
When a break-up has occurred it is alright for those involved to deal with their feelings of loss through tears. Crying acknowledges the pain and loss felt over the situation. Tears are a way of releasing frustration and anxiety that have built up. Two or three days after the tears have started a person should start trying to cry less so that she is able to start moving forward with her life.
Get Out of the House
Staying in the house with the curtains closed is an appealing thought for the newly broken-up person. Sitting at home with a pint of Ben and Jerry’s ice cream will not help a person to heal. These behaviors allows a person to indulge in self-pity which is detrimental. It is important that the newly broken-up person get out of her house, room or apartment.
Going for a walk is a way to leave home while getting exercise. Visiting the library will allow the person to find diversion from her sadness. If a person who is newly broken up chooses to go to the video store to rent movies, all romantic movies should be avoided.
Talk About the Broken Relationship
It can be healthy for a person to talk about her break-up. A person who chooses to talk about the break-up should make sure that her talk is positive and will move her forward in her healing process. A person could ask a friend to go to dinner with her for the purpose of talking over the break-up.
A counselor’s insight is also often helpful as a person deals with the emotional aftermath of a break-up. Looking for and speaking to a counselor who can help a person move forward is an important step towards healing and a new life without the ex.
Do Something For Someone Else
Taking flowers to a nursing home and spending time talking to the residents. Tutoring a child of a neighbor who is a single mother. When a newly single person puts her time and energy into helping others she will find that she thinks less of her problems and start counting her blessings.
Remember the Happy Times
It’s okay for a person to remember the good times she had with her ex. A few weeks after the break-up, she should take out the albums of pictures and remember the good times that she and her ex had together. Focusing on these positive memories versus the sad ones will help a person to start putting the situation in perspective.
Accept Things as They Are
It is not a good idea for a person to wait by the phone for the ex to call. Time should not be spent imagining what life would be like if the relationship was to be repaired. Accepting the situation will allow a person to move forward and prepare for her next relationship.
In time, a person will look at the time after a painful break-up and realize that there is little or no pain. Instead she will realize that she is a better person now then she was at the time of the relationship.
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